Dear husbands!!! Most of you complain of how difficult it is to please a (one) woman. Additionally, you often say women expect you to be mind-readers. As such, I find it uncanny you choose (yes, it’s always a choice) to have a side chick while in the midst of mission impossible (pleasing your wife and being a mind reader). If you cannot perfect the art of pleasing your wife, why add a side chick in the mix? Okay, some people will argue that some side chicks are so good they have graduated to wifey positions. Let me just tell you this; the foundation of that relationship is faulty and any relationship that sprouts from this scenario, will eventually crumble. You cannot build something solid out of faulty foundations.

I know in reality, some marriages are hell on earth, either party might want to get out. Yes, that’s the reality of some marriages. My gripe is why bring more drama to an already complicated marriage situation? Divorcing your wife and starting afresh with another woman is the rationale thing to do.  Let me let you in on a little secret; a side chick is never the answer to your problems. You know why? Because side chicks create another dimension of issues. How do these men even find the strength to deal with two women? Proverbs 14:12 states “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death” (NIV). Are you ready to die before your time? That’s one of the side effects of trying to juggle two women. And it’s all fun and games until the side chick becomes more demanding and less patient with you. Remember the saying “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” Now imagine two women scorned. There are men who are happy with their marriages but want to “play away match” but get stuck.  All I will say (in Patience Jonathan’s voice)- continue!!!! Karma has your address on speed dial. You will definitely reap the fruits of what you have sown.

A friend of mine once told me he can never get married and equates getting married to eating only one type of soup for the rest of your life. At least he owns his greed. Greed for variety has put many married men in life threatening situations. Some side chicks have gone diabolical to keep the married man, some have been/still are blackmailed by their side chicks, some cannot keep up with the demands of the side chicks but the side chicks are not ready to let go. Some side chicks are ready to destroy the family you toiled for years to build because the side chicks get greedy (she starts to want more from you). Some side chicks have side dudes (hey, when you’re with wifey, side chick needs company too!) who they have sex with, then come right around and have sex with the married men who in turn go home and have sex with their wives. Yeah, the combo sounds crazy right? It’s reality.